For Women
''You don't have to have a mental health problem to benefit from Personal Therapy'
Julie Morley (Hyp.dip, Ad.dip.CP, MNCS)
Independent Accredited,
Integrative Personal Psychotherapist
Market Deeping & Deeping St James, Peterborough
Tel: 07761 065 726

Personal Psychotherapy & Stress Consultancy

TEXT: 07902 583 487

Personal Issues for Women

There are many personal issues that are worked on in therapy because although they may not be thought of as a mental health problem, even though they can sometimes cause some problems, they do affect our well-being and cause a lot of stress, anxiety and sometimes depression too. 

In therapy, many women seek therapy for what they think might be seen as an insignificant problem but it is actually very important to them and affects the way they feel.  Sometimes these issues come from the past and sometimes things are currently going on but a person can not see what is happening and things can get all caught up in circles. 

Psychotherapy in all of the areas that I list under the heading of personal issues can be supported in therapy.  Things get untangled and processed in a better, more healthier way.  Sometimes this process is hard going and sometimes, believe it or not, some fun can happen in therapy too.  You might seem to get better before you get worse, but even if you do, other people have always described this as a 'better worse' and they're 'ok with it actually'.

Some of the issues I include under the title Personal Issues are:

Anger & Irritability
Having an anger problem or feeling constantly angry or irritable can start to spread in to other life areas and affect your mood in general and then quality of life. Relationships can start to suffer and it can seem pretty impossible to stop how youre feeling.  Psychotherapy with me aims to do just that - change how youre feeling.  Whereas some common therapy styles aim to 'manage' anger a more holistic psychotherapy aims to alter how youre feeling in the first place so you no longer have to expend any energy trying to manage it.

Body Issues
Everyone knows we live in a culture that puts body size and shape above everything else but for some, concerns about this can become intrusive on other aspects and areas of life.  Therapy aims to assist in balancing the beliefs and concerns about this to something more appropriate and healthier.

Sometimes a person can feel stuck in a rut and bored with something or someone when 'they shouldn't' be feeling bored.  if this feeling stays around too long we can start to become depressed and anxious while stuck in the rut.  Therapy aims to break downs whats going on and what makes a different to that.  It can sort out the confusing feelings and thoughts enabling a person to live a more fullfilled life.

Career future
Whether you're in youre desired career and no longer enjoying it, or have found yourself in a career that you're now not sure about, or wish you had a better career, therapy aims to provide clues to what you should do about this.  Therapy opens up parts of yourself that may not have been known which could be the one thing that solves these dilemas.  It can also explore career and work situations to enable you to identify your skill-sets and make more rewarding decisions about your work-life.

Food issues
Most people now understand that continual dieting is not the healthiest way to live and obsessions and preoccupations with diets and eating can take over a person's life.  In therapy the aim is to alter the relationship a person has with food and aims to change how a person is using it by using particular techniques to help change attitudes, beliefs and behaviours around food.

General Anxiety
Sometimes we can suffer anxiety too much or too long but it not be considered a mental health disorder.  We can be very anxious about something and know pretty much exactly that its about but eventually a person can get fed up of feeling this way and want to sort out either the feelings around something, or work out what to do or how to handle the the current or past experience in a new way.

Grief is a natural process but at times a person can struggle in it.  This usually comes to light when a person finds themselves thinking, 'I shouldn't still be feeling like this' or 'I should be over this by now'.  Therapy is very effective at helping a person move through any part of grief where they seem to have got stuck and this is certainly not always about sitting in therapy crying (but that happens too of course).  People are generally surprised at how different it is to process the loss of someone in therapy to how it was outside of therapy and it is always beneficial.

Some of the headaches therapy with me can help with include tension headaches and migraines. The reason for this is because therapy can reduce stress and reducing stress in the body can reduce the negative effects of changin hormones and the stress hormone cortizol which increases the likely hood of headaches and other stress related ailments.  In addition to this, being highly qualified in complementary therapies, I am often able to identify complementary or alternative therapies that might supoprt your particular type of problem with headaches and I sometimes provide treatments myself like Reflexology or Hypnotherapy.

Insomnia is common when we are going through life's difficulties and sleep problems and insomnia are very common.  As therapy reduces stress and helps people sort their issues out, sleep tends to improve and for those with sleep problems that are in addition to being a reactio to life stressors, I have a set of techniques to put in place to help adjust sleep patterns to become much more normal in most people.

Mid-Life Crisis
Not a scientific term but a commonly understood term used to describe (usually) a middle aged man doing some things that are generally out of character.  Usually the man is quite happy about doing this.  However, it seems that a 'life crisis' can take place at almost any age and it causes a person a problem when they are feeling distressed, stressed, not happy, out of sorts or simply don;t know who they are any more.  Psychotherapy works to help a person work out exactly what is going on for them and move a person through their life crisis in the best way possible for them. 

Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse is being talked about a lot more now than it ever was before.  Women can benefit from working with a professional to process the abuse effectively as this can be incredibly healing, enabling a person to be a survior without it having such a negative impact on your life as it did before.

I have a nutrition qualification which enables me to have a high chance of recognising mistakes in eating habits that are often related to the imense amount of confusing infomation about eating that is in the public domain. This aids my work with a persons psychological and emotional relationship with food.

Sometimes a person can feel sad, low, depressed or just utterly miserable but not actually have depression as such. Of course it's normal to feel these things but if it lasts too long of course a depression problem can manifest.  Right at this point is the best time to seek therapy as the earlier depression is intercepted, the better for everyone involved.

Sleep Difficulties
(see insomnia)

Work Life
(See careers)

Some of the Mental Health Issues I work with include:
  • Anger & Irritability
  • Body Issues
  • Career Paths
  • Control Issues
  • Friends & Social Life
  • General Anxiety
  • Grief
  • Insomnia
  • Low mood
  • Mid-Life Crisis
  • Sexual Abuse Surviving
  • Sleep Difficulties
  • Stress overload
  • Work Life