For Women
'You don't have to have a mental health problem to benefit from personal therapy'

Julie Morley
Personal Psychotherapist
Market Deeping, Peterborough
Tel: 01778 349620
Mob: 07902 583487
EMAIL is.. email_julie@yahoo.com

Personal Psychotherapy & Stress Consultancy

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Questions other people have asked...

Do you offer couples counselling?
I used to work with couples in counselling but stopped working with couples so as to focus on specialised Psychotherapy for women.

Do you work with men?
I have a lot of experience in working with men but in 2018 decided to focus my work on Psychotherapy and counselling for women. Men however still attend therapy with me.

Do You work with children?

I do work with young people over the age of 13. Therapy for younger children however works differently and I have a colleague who works with children who I can refer you to.


Long or Short Term Therapy

If you only have one issue you want to focus on then short-term counselling might be best. If you’d like to understand yourself, and how your past has informed your present day patterns, have several issues you’d like to approach, or just aren’t sure what you will discover, then long term therapy might be called for.


What shall I do if I turn up early?

It can be a good idea to turn up a few minutes early to your session and rest in your car or near-by taking time to slow down from normal every day life and feel ready for your session and not feel rushed.


What if I don't understand how counselling and therapy works?

You don't need to know how therapy works for it to work, you just need to be open to consider some new ideas and be open to challenges. Some people arrive in therapy having a rough idea of how it works and some don't and neither is a problem at all. If someone wants to learn how it works as they go, this is also fine, but sometimes it's a good idea to just let go and go with it.

Are my issues an integrated part of my personality? 

If the problem you have is a deeply ingrained part of your personality it’s more likely that long-term therapy is for you. For example, if for your entire life you have found sustaining a relationship difficult and tend to jump from one romance to the next, or if you have always suffered anxiety around social interaction, such things might be indicative of core behavioral patterns that require consistent and steady work.


Who is Psychotherapy for ?

Click here to read about others who have psychotherapy and counselling >


Do you offer Psychosexual Therapy?

I don't offer Psychosexual Therapy as a stand-alone therapy but do have a colleague who is an ex-Relate Psychosexual Thearpist who I can refer to.  However, I do work with sexual issues as and when they come into the therapy as part of a bigger picture.


Can you read my mind?

Not quite.  It is a myth that Psychotherapists can read your mind or are psychic, but it can often feel that way.  An effective therapist is usually highly intuitive and this coupled with their knowledge and skills, might seem like a therapist is reading your mind. But don't worry, we can not scan your mind and hear what you're thinking.


What happens at the first session and is there anything I need to do or bring?
At the first session I will take down your basic details including some basic health details. Then I will ask you what you would like to get from therapy. Sometimes people are not sure and this is OK, we can usually work that out together. That's all you will need to think about on the first session because after that, I will be able to explain how I think therapy with me might help you.  We will then decide if we could work well together and go from there.

How long will Therapy Take?
There is no knowing how long it will take to get from therapy what you came for and no rules about how long you stay or when you end therapy.  Some people stay with their personal therapist long term where they continue to benefit from therapeutic contact and explore their life experiences in real time and others are dealing with an immediate particular issue and end therapy straight after this.  Some people start more short term to work through an immediate issue.  Some start short term and then decide to explore further to enhance their personal development.

Do you offer Skype (or other on-line face-time) Sessions?

I do work with people on-line but it is usually on the occassions people can not attend due to say, snow or another random event.  Sometimes if I have been doing work with clients and they move out of town, I also work on line if they would like sessions like this. 


I have children and feel I need a therapist who also has children, do you have children?

Yes, I have three children.  Two are adult and one is still in school.  I work a lot with issues involving children and families.
What do I talk about in therapy?
People can talk about anything they want to talk about in therapy and a professional therapist will aim to help you stay focussed on you.  It works best when a person completely takes part and is willing to share thoughts, memories, dreams and feelings that pop up during the session.  Sometimes this may feel like youre saying things that are unimportant, silly or sound unusual but this is not how the therapist will see it. In fact they will be pleased to hear what's going on inside you as therapists like to work with the unconscious mind and the conscious mind and so no matter how silly it seems, it is actually likely to be very useful.

It is ideal for you to take your learning in therapy and apply it to your every day life.  This could be different ways of talking with others, observing new things that you now notice, or being aware of the new self understanding and thinking and feeling about how this affects you, and then bring this all back into the therapy room. 

There are no rules about asking your therapist questions.  Your therapist should explain boundaries and how this works so go ahead- ask away!
You might not get the type of answer you were looking for but you should get a reason why not, and you might learn something about yourself in the process.


Therapy is a great place for thinkers to try feeling, listeners to practice talking, talkers to listen and passive people to learn to be assertive.  You get the picture... There is a lot of learning to be got in therapy about yourself, other people, sociology, psychology, evolution, communication theory, the mind, the brain and much much more.  Therapy is a bit like enrolling in a course where you are the subject matter. If you're curious, teachable and motivated to do some work, it can be one of the most challenging but rewarding courses you ever take.

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