Boundaries and Intimacy
Below there is a basic list of areas of intimacy within human relationships. Each person has a personal boundary level within intimate relationships and in other relationships like with different friends, acquaintances, colleagues and strangers etc
Choosing what to share with who can depend on how we were bought up by our families and how they were with each other, social interactions outside the home whilst growing up, previous learning from an individual and what we believe we should share with other people. Some of us can assume a large amount of trust and share too much too soon, and others can struggle to share anything and be intimate.
Learning about this can highlight when other peoples boundaries do not match with your own like with a new significant other, or indeed it can highlight when a parent is crossing boundaries you actually would rather not share.
Sharing of plans, ideas as a team, texting, sharing information about what you’re doing, where you’re going. What happened in your day and decisions you’re making
The sharing of feelings- how you feel about something, how the other person makes you feel. Accepting another’s feelings and looking after the disclosures.
Non-sexual affection- kissing, touching, holding hands, intimate non sexual gestures
*Desire- Desire for experience, for a partner or activity
*Drive/Motivation- What drives us to seek the experience
*Arousal/orgasms- Physical readiness for sex
*Expectations- Media, Porn, Past experiences