Looking for Counselling or Psychotherapy for someone else?
Thank you for helping your partner / child / sibling (or
other) find a local therapist to support them using talking therapies to deal
with their issues. Many people seek a suitable Counsellor for their friends or family members and this is normal and welcomed.
For therapy to be sucessful it is important for the person themselves to want to do it. Sometimes a person is happy to attend counselling but has requested that you find a therapist and for others, they believe their family member or friend would benefit from counselling but this person does not agree.
*If you believe you are needing support with a mental health crisis, please see my crisis page >
MAKING AN APPOINTMENT ON BEHALF OF...
It is OK to make an appointment on behalf of the other person but I will confirm the appointment by text or email directly to them. All contact thereafter will be direct with the person in counselling if they are over 18.
CAN I ATTEND WITH THEM?
if you're bringing the person to the session/sessions, I'm happy to meet and say hello to you and sometimes this can support them with any nervousness in meeting someone new but after that, my contract will be only with them and as it's strictly confidential so you wont be able to stay for the first session. (unless they're under 18). In our first session we will decide together if we are suitable for each other and identify what the person would like to achieve from therapy. Please try as many therapists as it takes to find a suitable person to work with.
It is important that the subsequent sessions are also just me and them as I need to gain an overview from their perspective to ensure we are suited to work together and get a non biased view on the support they would like from therapy.
Further to this, it would be unethical for me to later converse with you about their therapy, nor can I add you in to their sessions at a later date as the dynamic would be wrong.
WHAT IF I, OR WE, ARE ALSO NEEDED IN THE THERAPY?
If it transpires that couples or family therapy would be a better way forward for them at any point, then some people either do this with another therapist which is more ethically appropriate so that the therapist starts afresh with all involved so that the dynamic is fair and equal. Some people also choose to have personal therapy while also having couples therapy with a joint therapist if needed or they might pause personal therapy to do so for a while to ease the cost.
HOW WILL I KNOW THERAPY IS WORKING FOR THEM?
usually improves during therapy as does the assertiveness and self
esteem of the person. Sometimes people get worse before they get
The therapy that I do with people often invokes personal
change which sometimes causes changes in their relationships with others, and
this is normal and can be on a small or significant level.
Feel free to ask any further questions before I start work with your family member.